If you've ever been in a chat room or discussion furoms, chances are you've been asked if you were a top, bottom, versatile top or versatile bottom. These descriptors not only reference sexual roles, but represent the behavior in gay relationships. Some gay men prefer to identify themselves by these labels, while others prefer a more loose interpretation of their sexual preferences and relationship roles.What do these labels mean?
- Top -The dominant partner in a gay relationship.
Often used to describe the penetrating partner during brokeback mountain (hihihi). Bottom -The passive partner in a gay relationship.
Often used to describe the partner who is penetrated during anal jerjer.Versatile -A versatile gay man enjoys a shared dominance in gay relationships. They are comfortable being the dominant partner, passive partner or both. During sex, versatile men enjoy being either a top or bottom.
Versatile Top -A versatile top is comfortable with a shared dominance in gay relationships; however sexually, enjoy being a top more than a bottom.
Versatile Bottom -A versatile bottom is comfortable with a shared dominance in gay relationships; however sexually, enjoy being a bottom more than a top.
How do you know if a person is a top, bottom, or versatile?Despite the many stereotypes and generalizations about gay sex, there is only one easy way to find out your potential partner's sexual role- ask him (of course, at the appropriate time)! Keep in mind, however, that some men prefer not to label themselves
Why are you being asked to label yourself?
Unlike the traditional generalizations of sexual compatibility in straight relationships, when two men are involved it is difficult to determine sexual compatibility before meeting. For instance, if a guy prefers to bottom (or be penetrated) during anal sex, then he will more than likely want a guy that prefers to top.One again, there are no absolutes when it comes to each individuals sexual preferences. Some men use these descriptors as a mere guide, while others see them as a necessary piece of information before sex or dating.
How to ask your partner about his sexual preference. Most men in chat rooms or message boards choose to explicitly ask if their prospect is top, bottom or versatile. Non-verbal signals were used to disclose their preferences but are rarely used today due to the internet and the ability for gay men to communicate and meet in other non-threatening environments.Ikaw what are you?
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yeah, i learned those terms when I was still 17. I didn't know what top or bottom before, so when I was asked before, I didn't know what to say until I figured that out after watching m2m videos... haha... somehow the labels are useful... but in long term relationships, switching roles are very common and natural. I was bottom at first, but my boyfriend became curious why I love being fucked... so he asked me to do it on him... then we alternately switched our roles later then.
ReplyDeletei agree with you macky. there had been previous confusion about the preferences or better said as roles in bed by the third kind, "our kind" (hihih)! i must admit that i sometimes switch the labels of being top or bottom! in contrary however, i was once B but now T. for a change of course, a proof of being versatility! :)
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One of my gay friends has always been a T. And his funny anecdotes are nothing short of, well, funny! Haha. But I also have a friend how's a full-fledged V. He says he can't be gay if he ain't versatile in all sense of the word. But then again, what matters most is that one enjoys what he does regardless of where he's at. My first time here. Hope to visit again here there and everywhere again soon. :D
ReplyDeleteOoops, please edit, I meant "But I also have a friend WHO's a full-fledged V." Thanks. :)
ReplyDeleteI am straight, so sorry if that is a really stupid question... but I wonder: Isn´t being a strict "top" almost the same as being straight? I mean with dim lights and doggy position this to me looks like normal sex. So doesn´t the "gay" aspect become almost theoretical? Couldn´t you replace your partner with a girl, and still be happy?
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me? always,always ..a bottom.because only then i feel like a babe who enjoy a hard fuck by a strong partner.always a bottom ,enjoying cross-dressing and wearing ornaments and applying lip stick to please my MAN.
ReplyDeleteHello my name is Merle Dean Shamblin and I would like to be your new friend. I sure could use somebody to chat with. I am a 47 year old long haul truck driver who currently lives in Duncan Oklahoma. Dec 8th 1960 I was born in Fairview Oklahoma. Moved to Caddo and Washita counties where I attended school at Colony Hydro and Weatherford. My parents Malvin and Wanda Shamblin were cotton and peanut farmers. Dad died in 99 from lung cancer. Graduated from SWOSU with a business degree. My two sisters are LaDonna Hubert and Malva Burrahm. Dennis is my brother. I have been a truck driver for 14 years and have driven 2 million paid miles. I have received many safe driving awards over the years. I am single and have never been married. I have a wide range of interests and am pretty much an open book. Currently I drive a 2006 Freightliner for a major carrier. I dont go to Canada very often. I dont have a dedicated route so I run the entire lower 48. I enjoy reading cinema music sports travel etc.
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